Yorkshire carer Alayne Holmes has drawn on her artistic talents to create a painting reflecting the peace and tranquillity carers need to seek in tough times.
Alayne, 80, is an involvement member with our Trust and has spent much of her life looking after loved ones.
“Caring never ends. You are always caring, from one day to the next. So, you need that bit of respite, that bit of time to yourself to help you breathe,” she said.
“If you need a little space, somewhere peaceful and tranquil, then imagine a place where you could go to reflect and meditate. Stay there a while and return another time.”
Life-long love of art
Alayne was inspired to take up art as a child and, over the years, has worked with a variety of mediums including watercolours, chalks, charcoal and acrylics.
“I’ve always loved painting; I find it very therapeutic. It totally takes me away from everything else and I get completely immersed in what I’m doing,” she said.
“My carer painting takes me down a sloping path with blackberries growing at the sides and I come to a small lagoon and a shimmering waterfall.
“As a carer I often bring myself to this place and can return to reality refreshed.”
Importance of carer voice
Alayne, a former care home activity co-ordinator, is a great believer in the need to make sure carer voices are heard when their loved ones are poorly.
“You know the person you are caring for better than anyone else, and you have to speak up for them. Carer voice is very important – especially in medical matters,” she said.
“Carers need to be involved in discussions, they need to be advocates for those they care for. Sadly, many carers don’t realise they can be included, so get by-passed instead.”
Alayne has found her art, and other interests such as crafting, gardening and community activities, to be of great help in relieving the day-to-day stresses of caring.
However, she is also passionate about learning more about the conditions of people she looks after – and encourages others to do the same.
Carers need care too
“Carers need to look after themselves. I call it distractions – whether it’s going for a walk, doing some painting, or sitting outside in the garden, please take time for yourself,” she said.
“But please take time to learn about whatever condition the person you care for has. It helps you to understand their needs, and what is going on.
“If I could give people any piece of advice about being a carer I would say that making sure you take a break sometimes, as well as gather information, are both very important.
“People need to take a break, so they don’t break. It’s OK to ask for help.”
